We all decide at one point that a certain way of living or thinking no longer serves our higher purpose and it happens when it happens. Unless you have already established a support system in your life that fits in with a self care lifestyle, it can definitely be isolating. From my own experience, I had many times through out the first couple years of discovering and choosing to care for myself where I stood alone. Yes, I had plenty of friends and support, but now I was choosing to say no to the things that defined a lot of my relationships. It wasn't as though these friends and family weren't supportive of me becoming a stronger, happier Sonya, but we weren't able to meet each other in the same space anymore. (BTW, I am still good friends with many of these people and a bunch more!)
Please know there is no pressure coming from me for you to dump your entire life to find enlightenment, but if your at a point in your life that you've been living doesn't feel comfortable, has become stagnant or detrimental to your health then here are some ways of taking some steps towards choosing to care for yourself.
BODYWORK; Duh. When you can regularly see someone you trust for bodywork, you are telling your body that you are worth the time to be nurtured and cared for. That you are thankful for all that it does for you EVERY.SINGLE.DAY. These muscle, bones, ligaments, and tendons are constantly holding you in space and giving you the ability to drive that car, to scroll the phone, to enjoy that meal. Be kind to your body, you only get one this life time.
MOVEMENT; This goes with the bodywork. We are not meant to be sedentary animals. We are meant to be physically strong and capable. This does not mean you need to join the gym pronto, get a trainer and demolish yourself, (to each their own), but to again send the best message to your body that you appreciate it, love it and will do what you need to care for it. (Yes, I love yoga, but my new favorite thing is to walk through my neighborhood and literally stop to smell the roses.)
TALK TO SOMEONE; I personally started therapy in 2013. That was my first and my best step towards self care. I was repeatedly choosing people and paths that lead me all to the same place of unhappiness and I finally realized that there had to be another way, but I definitely needed some guidance to break the chain. There is no shame in seeing a professional in my eyes. I discovered so much about who I was, who I could be and who I wanted to be. If that's not your bag, no worries, just talk to someone that you trust or someone that seems to represent/inspire a life you are striving for. Opening up the conversation is only going to open your eyes. Once your eyes are opened, it becomes pretty hard to unsee any of those new discoveries.
LISTEN TO YOURSELF; We don't give ourselves enough credit. We normally have all the answers we need, but most of the time choose to ignore that nagging feeling in our gut. The more you start to care for yourself and begin tuning in, the more you are going to hear what you need, what you feel, what is real for you. Your intuition is a real thing. We all have it. We just need to take the time to listen.
PAUSE; For real tho. Slow down. We are so rushed, so busy, so important, so tired, so stressed. STOP. Take 2-5 mins a day to take deep breaths, chill in a warm bath, stretch your body, literally think about your feet on the ground. These pauses will keep you sane. They will ground you. When you are having one of your whirlwind days, check in with yourself and do you for just a moment.
Choosing this path is choosing to do the work. It can be difficult and lonely and it can bring up the deep rooted shit that you may have been ignoring for a very long time, but I promise it's worth it. Please if you wanna chat about where you are, where you want to be or steps that you could take to head in the right direction, I'm here.