GROUNDING: Building your foundation.
When you build a home, you must start with the foundation. Without a solid base to build from, you end up with a unstable home unable to stand on it's own. No, this is not a DIY: building a home edition, but maybe a how to: build a solid a support system for the self.
What is grounding? Well to me, it's coming back to my physical self. It's connecting in the actual space that you inhabit. To be grounded is to feel stable and supported, to be centered and balanced no matter what is evolving around you. This is the kind of support that helps you show up everyday and face your life, instead of avoiding or running from it. For me, this is a daily practice. To be able to hold the space I do for my clients, it is one of the most important practices I HAVE to do everyday. I ground myself to honor you during our time together. I ground myself to honor my choice to help others who are just finding their way on a healing path or have been there a long time and believe I have something to offer on their continued journey.
There are many ways to ground or support oneself. Don't know where to start? Here are some of my top suggestions:
GO OUTSIDE. That's it. Be in nature, put your hands and feet on the earth. Being outdoors can not only be stabilizing, but uplifting. Every morning, I try to jog/walk through my neighborhood, while stopping to appreciate some new greenery growing nearby. It's an automatic connection to my body. Whether it's hiking a new trail, sticking your hands in the dirt and planting a new green friend, or even just sitting in a park under a tree, do what feels right to you. I honestly believe spending time in nature is a basic human need. Go spend a little time outside and try to tell me you don't feel like your spirit has been lifted, even the tiniest bit.
BE PHYSICAL: Move it. This doesn't mean you need to beat yourself up, unless that's your bag, but to again connect to your body in the present moment. You will be waking up every cell of body and allowing the systems to flow and function as intended. After my morning neighborhood stroll, I come straight to my yoga mat and stretch and strengthening my physical self. I am able to just check in on new tightness or even where my body has allowed more space and openness. Walk, stretch, jump up and down. It doesn't matter, just move.
BREATHE: Yes, my favorite. The powerful world of intentional breathing. To breathe with purpose is to truly be here, right now. Meditating is difficult for most people. (If it isn't for you, please share your secret!) I personally struggle, but that's why it's called a practice and I do it DAILY. When I can't seem to calm the whirlwind of thoughts long enough for a nice 10 min meditation, I will simply breathe deeply 3-5 times. That alone takes my erratic mind from 10 to 2. INHALE: I am EXHALE: love. This technique is simple and quick enough to take with you through out the day when extra grounding and clarity of the mind is needed.
I always suggest choosing one new ritual for yourself when you are starting something new such as this. I like to also remind everyone that this is a practice. Every day will not feel the same and some days you may not have the patience or personal strength to stick to your chosen technique. These tough times will be the moments that you will need these practices the most. I promise with time and dedication, the benefits will outweigh any inconvenience or uncomfortable feelings that may be dredged up during this process. Not only will you feel you need these practices, but eventually you will crave the stable support it will provide.
Please don't hesitate if you have any questions or if you'd like to work on a grounding support system for yourself with me, give me a shout at firstname.lastname@example.org.